Low Self-Esteem And Healthy Self-Esteem

What is Low Self-Esteem?

People with low self-esteem often feel unlovable, not good enough or that they are not enough, lacking confidence and feel badly about themselves, awkward, or incompetent.

Characteristics of genuinely low self-Esteem:

  • Social withdrawal
  • Lack of social skills and self-confidence
  • Eating disorders
  • An inability to see be fair to yourself
  • Exaggerated concern over what you imagine people to think
  • Treating yourself badly
  • Reluctance to take on challenges
  • Reluctance to trust your own opinion
  • People pleasing at your own expense
  • Anxiety and emotional turmoil
  • Less social conformity
  • Inability to accept compliments
  • Accentuating the negative
  • Self-neglect
  • Worrying whether you have treated others badly
  • Reluctance to put yourself first or anywhere
  • Expecting little out of life for yourself
  • Uncomfortable communicating important wants and needs

What is Healthy Self-esteem?

Self-esteem is shaped by your thoughts, relationships and experiences.

Here are some clear signs of a healthy self-esteem:

  • Loving yourself as a whole person and knowing your uniqueness allows you to be yourself
  • Being authentic: living without pretending. Staying true to yourself and to what you believe in to be right
  • Not worrying excessively about what others think
  • Feeling good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the respect of others
  • Taking care of yourself and looking after your own needs rather than pleasing others
  • Having healthy boundaries with other people, and treating yourself with dignity and respect
  • Being assertive and speaking up for yourself. Daring to say no to things you don’t want to do
  • Focusing on your life without the need to compare yourself to others
  • Being able to acknowledge and celebrate other people’s achievements
  • Being okay with spending time alone
  • Taking responsibility for the way you feel and for your actions, instead of blaming other people or your circumstances
  • Being open to change what you don’t like in your life and what is changeable
  • Believing that you are loveable and you deserve the best things life has to offer

Healthy self-esteem can be created and become a part of your newer, better and updated programming, even if it seems unfamiliar!

Are you ready to make a change?

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